What Is a Spoonie?

Over the past few posts, I have discussed caring for a spoonie, the stress of social situations, and helping a spoonie. After all this, I think it is important to explain what a spoonie is to those who may not know. Some people might know what a spoonie is already, but for those who do not, a “spoonie” is someone who deals with chronic illness and/or fatigue caused by various illnesses. My wife has ulcerative colitis, fibromylgia, rheumatoid arthritis, and other chronic conditions. These conditions drain her energy and make it hard to get through the day. Those with chronic illness and fatigue tend to use The Spoon Theory to explain their daily struggles.

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The Spoon Theory was created by Christine Miserandino and can be read at https://butyoudontlooksick.com/category/the-spoon-theory/. The basic idea behind The Spoon Theory is that people with chronic conditions only have a limited number of spoons to use in a day. Most healthy people have an unlimited number of spoons to use through out the day, however those with chronic conditions do not have that luxury. The limited number of spoons means that they have to conserve and use their spoons wisely. Everything takes spoons, though some activities take more spoons than others. A good example is getting up for the day. For a healthy person, getting up just means they have to hop out of bed and get ready. For a spoonie, each task takes spoons. Getting out of bed might take one spoon and walking to the bathroom takes another. Do you wash your face in the morning? Well that will take a spoon as well. If you have long hair and need to comb it, then it might take two spoons. Each task, even the simplest, takes spoons.

A spoonie only has a limited number of these spoons throughout the day, and unlike healthy people, spoonies do not recover spoons as the day goes on. If they wake up with only 10 spoons, that is all they have for that day. They may be able to borrow spoons from tomorrow, but that means they will start tomorrow off with fewer spoons. In addition to the limited spoons, their chronic conditions can steal spoons. Lauren might start with 10 spoons, but just dealing with the pain will use 3 spoons for the day. Putting on a happy face and using energy to pass as abled also takes spoons to accomplish. With any luck she will recover some when she sleeps, but even that is not guaranteed.

The Spoon Theory is probably the best way I have ever found to explain the struggles people with chronic illness deal with every day in regards to energy. The idea that once your spoons are gone, then your day is done is scary. I have finally gotten to the point where I can see the spoons being expended, and I know when Lauren is out of spoons, but it took a lot of communication between the two of us to get to this point. This is why spoonies need extra support and understanding. They work hard every day just to get the basics done. If you are caring for a spoonie, read The Spoon Theory and have a conversation with them about their spoons. Pitch in when you care, and take over anything that is not important for them to do. They are dealing with so much already, and they need your support!

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